God has designed our entire life on this planet as transitory. Nothing is permanent, although I try to make it that way. Especially as relational adults, I see a physical kingdom here on earth and I spend most all of my working years DOING and attempting to set up the kingdom I envision. I attempt…
Category: Love
Silent Light!
The most powerful witness we have as Christians, as adults,and as parents is the way we openly do all of life and live within our relationships, our family, and our community. It is a SILENT presence. No where are we told to be loud speakers in our relational settings. Jesus used the example and gave…
True Mature Love!
Looking for love.…. I’m chasing love…… I hope I fall into love….. Where has love gone? At this season of the year “love” is in the air and on the calendar. So where and from whom do I really find love? Let’s take a look at real mature love and where it comes from. It’s…
Turmoil At Home?
As I enter this new season it is time for me to do a self check and see if I am being my best self?! Am I aware of who I am and who those around me are? As I look at my Relational Maturity am I primarily an infant, a child, an adult, or…
The Place Called Home!
“I will take care of you and protect you!” ….. For most men who are the typical American male at a child level of relational maturity; This means that I provide for you financially and often loudly roar about the house keeping everyone in line and in their proper roles. There is generally a sense…
Living The Good Life!
When do I start living the “good life”? What is the “good life?” We often feel that life is rough and I just need to get through or past this season or time and then I can start living the “good life”. I have often lived in a state of busyness and overwhelm. I just…
In Tune With God and Man!
As we begin this new year, I need to do a self check and see if I am in tune with God and my family, friends and others… If I am NOT in tune I will find that my relational circuits are off and I am not very well connected to God or anyone else….
To Judge or Not To Judge…
What happens when I judge? I have seen and felt cases of judgment and having been judged by others, my eyes were opened to the seriousness of judging. I see why Jesus tells us not to judge others. I also see why Jesus does not judge in an immediate fashion like we often think He…
The Few!
The few who ….. Who are the few? …. What do the few do? …. What do the few not do? ….. “Noah was a righteous man, the only blameless person living on earth at the time, and he walked in close fellowship with God. Gen.6:9 Enoch lived in close fellowship with God …. Enoch…
The Joyful Main Event of Life!
Joy to you and me!! Our Companion and Savior has come!! And, He wants to connect with us now!! “For, I bring you good news of great joy that will be for all the people …. unto you and me is born this day our Savior, who is Jesus Christ, our Lord!” Luke2:8-14 Joy is…
BEEPS … The Delays of Life …
BEEPS are negative rabbit trails and hindrances to healthy relational maturity growth. Beeps are; Behaviors …. Experiences ….. Events ….. People ….. Substances …. Each of these is a topic in it’s self and a rabbit trail that is a diversion that side tracks me from the serious issues of life. They keep me from…
Love Is When…
Love is not a reward for being good; Love is not a reward for doing good; In fact, love is not a reward. Love is a heart condition. Love is most apparent and shows up when I am malfunctioning and not my best self. I see love when I am impatient and mean and demeaning…
Life’s Second Great Event!
The second great event of life is my relationship with my spouse ….. The marriage bond is strongest when we share love, developmental identity growth, relational maturity, and a purpose with ministry. These are the things of life that do not fade …… This is also the period of my life that is generally the…
My Life Of Relationships…
Relationships are born, develop and mature. Some relationships last a lifetime and beyond while others don’t last much past birth and early development. Our ongoing connection with others is a relationship. All good relationships should bring life to both parties. We are physically born into some relationships, and they last a lifetime even though the…
A Relationally Mature Parent!
What are the advantages of being a relationally mature parent? There is a huge difference between being a person with child level relational maturity and being a person with a parent level relational maturity. Sadly, the vast majority of adults in our society spend their lives stuck at the relational level of a child. As…
Thank You!
My great example of giving thanks is Jesus. He started the conversation with His Father with “Thank You”! He even tell us that He speaks the Thank You aloud so that those around Him can hear and learn how important saying “Thank You” is in any conversation with God. “Then Jesus said, ‘Did I not…
What Is Perfection?
But, I’m not good enough ….. I have short comings …… I have times of failing …… I don’t measure up to the standard …. I have flaws and besetting sins ….. The scripture tells me to be perfect, and I’m not ….. It’s true, I’m not absolutely perfect. In fact, the scripture tells us…
Always!
Always is always … There are a few always statements and truths that I must always live by … “The One who sent Me is with Me. He has not left me alone, because I always do what pleases Him.” John 8:29 I keep Your instructions and follow your guidance because You are good and…
Living In My Own Home!
As the head of my household, how do I live and what do I accept and tolerate in my own home? The following scripture is very helpful to me: “I will live in my own home with integrity. I will not put anything wicked in front of my eyes. I hate what unfaithful people do. …
Relationship … The Main Event!
The main event of life is my relationship with Jesus. This relationship is the focus of all of life …. in all situations good and bad …… The relationship with Jesus is life! Jesus said; “I have come that you might have life, and life more abundantly!” (John 10:10) Why did Jesus say “that you…