So, what are the primary Puzzle pieces of my relational life? If I am a relational child, I will be curious as to what these puzzle pieces are. If I am an infant, I could care less. If I am an adult I will be interested to see if there is anything here that I…
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The Puzzle Of Life!
Part 1 of 3…. Ever think about how we are born and grow physically, emotionally and relationally? In general we don’t even think about such things. It just happens. When I grew up life just happened and I never gave such things a thought. All I knew is that at certain ages I was now…
Relationship Heartache….
Relationships are an interesting thing. In relationships I discover a lot about myself. Relationships will quickly bring out how relationally mature I am. The less mature I am, the more expectation I will place on you. This shows up very quickly in marriages. As an infant I expect the other person or spouse to fill…
Eating …. A Test for Relational Maturity?
Some of the simple things of life are the most revealing about how relationally mature we are. How well do I get along with myself? How relationally mature am I during the day in my daily activities? In this little test, I am going to talk about eating and what it reveals about how relationally…
The Goal of Life!
Is God a God of goals.? What all is God trying to accomplish here on this earth? He created the heavens and the earth and then He rested from His creating work. Gen.2:1-4 As I look around our planet I don’t see God doing any new creating or repairs to the planet He created for…
Am I Hindering Relational Maturity?
Without realizing it, our American society is designed to keep most everyone at an infant and child level of RM (relational maturity). This is true of families and also true of the government. Let’s look at some simple, basic examples. As a RM infant I am totally dependent on my mother or someone to keep…
Memorial Day!
I am thrilled to have this day set aside to remember and to express appreciation!!.. One of the keys to a healthy life is to be able to genuinely express appreciation to and for others…… We have set a part of this great day aside to express appreciation in a couple of personal ways. First,…
Legal Doesn’t Mean Godly!
We live in a culture that attempts to legislate all areas of life. If we just have enough laws and rules and freedoms, then we will have peace and harmony in society and within ourselves. But…. Is this true? NO! So why do we try so hard to protect and promote our laws and views?…
Maturity Check Up!
Am I maturing relationally? Do I just hope so or can I really tell that I am different in a good way!? It is a really nice feeling to look at myself and realize that I am better and more mature than I was 5 years ago and even 5 months ago. I am currently…
Tell Me A Story!
The following is taken from a past outline I wrote in order to organize some of my life stories and events. It has since been filled out considerably. I share it here with you for an idea of an outline for your own story telling to your family and for those who follow you! These…
My Daily Relationship With Jesus!
Am I looking to Jesus as my event coordinator? Or do I look to Jesus as life giving relationship and my Constant Companion? The majority of my life will be a daily walk consisting of what seems to be small, regular issues of daily living. When Jesus is my constant companion, I will actually find…
My Daily Assignments!
God has designed our entire life on this planet as transitory. Nothing is permanent, although I try to make it that way. Especially as relational adults, I see a physical kingdom here on earth and I spend most all of my working years DOING and attempting to set up the kingdom I envision. I attempt…
Silent Light!
The most powerful witness we have as Christians, as adults,and as parents is the way we openly do all of life and live within our relationships, our family, and our community. It is a SILENT presence. No where are we told to be loud speakers in our relational settings. Jesus used the example and gave…
Signs of Maturity!
One of the easiest ways to check my Relational Maturity (RM) is to check my responses. In general my thought process to see how I am doing is to check and see if I am doing all the correct and “right” things. I like to check the scripture for in it I think I have…
True Mature Love!
Looking for love.…. I’m chasing love…… I hope I fall into love….. Where has love gone? At this season of the year “love” is in the air and on the calendar. So where and from whom do I really find love? Let’s take a look at real mature love and where it comes from. It’s…
Turmoil At Home?
As I enter this new season it is time for me to do a self check and see if I am being my best self?! Am I aware of who I am and who those around me are? As I look at my Relational Maturity am I primarily an infant, a child, an adult, or…
The Place Called Home!
“I will take care of you and protect you!” ….. For most men who are the typical American male at a child level of relational maturity; This means that I provide for you financially and often loudly roar about the house keeping everyone in line and in their proper roles. There is generally a sense…
Living The Good Life!
When do I start living the “good life”? What is the “good life?” We often feel that life is rough and I just need to get through or past this season or time and then I can start living the “good life”. I have often lived in a state of busyness and overwhelm. I just…
In Tune With God and Man!
As we begin this new year, I need to do a self check and see if I am in tune with God and my family, friends and others… If I am NOT in tune I will find that my relational circuits are off and I am not very well connected to God or anyone else….
To Judge or Not To Judge…
What happens when I judge? I have seen and felt cases of judgment and having been judged by others, my eyes were opened to the seriousness of judging. I see why Jesus tells us not to judge others. I also see why Jesus does not judge in an immediate fashion like we often think He…