Love is not a reward for being good; Love is not a reward for doing good; In fact, love is not a reward. Love is a heart condition. Love is most apparent and shows up when I am malfunctioning and not my best self. I see love when I am impatient and mean and demeaning…
Meditations
Life’s Second Great Event!
The second great event of life is my relationship with my spouse ….. The marriage bond is strongest when we share love, developmental identity growth, relational maturity, and a purpose with ministry. These are the things of life that do not fade …… This is also the period of my life that is generally the…
My Life Of Relationships…
Relationships are born, develop and mature. Some relationships last a lifetime and beyond while others don’t last much past birth and early development. Our ongoing connection with others is a relationship. All good relationships should bring life to both parties. We are physically born into some relationships, and they last a lifetime even though the…
A Relationally Mature Parent!
What are the advantages of being a relationally mature parent? There is a huge difference between being a person with child level relational maturity and being a person with a parent level relational maturity. Sadly, the vast majority of adults in our society spend their lives stuck at the relational level of a child. As…
Thank You!
My great example of giving thanks is Jesus. He started the conversation with His Father with “Thank You”! He even tell us that He speaks the Thank You aloud so that those around Him can hear and learn how important saying “Thank You” is in any conversation with God. “Then Jesus said, ‘Did I not…
Onward and upward!
Following Jesus will always take a course that eventually leads us onward and upward. Following Jesus is a daily walk. It is not a sprint and I’m done. It is not a pleasure hike that is always enjoyable. The daily walk is one small step of a life time journey. The days are numbered by…
What Is Perfection?
But, I’m not good enough ….. I have short comings …… I have times of failing …… I don’t measure up to the standard …. I have flaws and besetting sins ….. The scripture tells me to be perfect, and I’m not ….. It’s true, I’m not absolutely perfect. In fact, the scripture tells us…
Always!
Always is always … There are a few always statements and truths that I must always live by … “The One who sent Me is with Me. He has not left me alone, because I always do what pleases Him.” John 8:29 I keep Your instructions and follow your guidance because You are good and…
Receiving God’s Promises!
Where is Jesus leading me? When I come alive in my spirit, where am I heading? Is there instant arrival? I am on the journey of life. I am on this planet called earth and as my spirit comes alive, I am on my way through life headed for the eternity of heaven. I am…
Living In My Own Home!
As the head of my household, how do I live and what do I accept and tolerate in my own home? The following scripture is very helpful to me: “I will live in my own home with integrity. I will not put anything wicked in front of my eyes. I hate what unfaithful people do. …
Relationship … The Main Event!
The main event of life is my relationship with Jesus. This relationship is the focus of all of life …. in all situations good and bad …… The relationship with Jesus is life! Jesus said; “I have come that you might have life, and life more abundantly!” (John 10:10) Why did Jesus say “that you…
Business Law….
Jesus is not in our earthly business mindset. If I attempt to relate to God in a business way I will be entering into law. These are the rules (laws) of business. Business is about what I can obtain from you. It is about what I can keep for myself. If I don’t want or…
Because You Love Me!
Psalm 91 Because you love Me …… Because you know and have My Name …… Because you have made Me your home, your dwelling place ….. No harm will come to you here. I will rescue you. I will protect you. I will answer you and talk with you. I will always be with you,…
The Desires of My Heart!
Psalms 37:4 James 4:1-3 1Sam. 16:7 Pr. 3:5,6 The vast majority of our population including Christians are at a relational maturity level of an “infant” and a “child” where life is all about me. As an ‘infant’ I will view God from that perspective. He should be giving me what I want ….and be giving…
Returning To Joy from Sadness …
This is a short story of how one of those Fast Feelings affected me and how I handled the emotion so that I didn’t stay in it. The emotion is sadness. This last week I had the opportunity to go to a 5 day Thrive training conference in Denver where I learn about relationships, emotions,…
Fast Feelings …
I was frightened out of my mind …. I experienced a sudden burst of anger …. I didn’t have time to think …. On a whim or on impulse I bought it….. We have all experienced emotions in this manner. So, where do they come from? Well, they come from the right half of my…
My Altered Traumatic Life …
Traumas create an altered state from which I operate. This altered state is not the real me that I was created to be. Most often, this altered state and way of living that I have is not the way I would like to be. Type “A” traumas are things that were missed in my life…
A Traumatic Dream! Jesus’ Hurricane Heart!
The background to this dream: With family help I recently converted a sorting disorganized “gloom room” in my house into a “JOY Room” that brings everyone in my life into focus and celebrates them. In the center of the room is a 4ft square table with nothing on it. The table is for use in…
The Feelings of Traumas..
Part 1 A trauma is not so much the event itself as it is the effect of the event on my mind. Trauma is an overload on our emotions and no healthy inner solutions to it. A trauma has an altering effect. What does a trauma feel like? I may feel nothing because there was…
Walking Through A Day With Jesus!
Walk through the day with me and let’s see how it went and how well I did. This is a real life accounting of how my day went today. I awoke and repeated my Daily Interactive Declaration: Good morning Lord. I am Your son and want to please You; Jesus, I love You! I am…