Relationships are born, develop and mature. Some relationships last a lifetime and beyond while others don’t last much past birth and early development. Our ongoing connection with others is a relationship. All good relationships should bring life to both parties. We are physically born into some relationships, and they last a lifetime even though the…
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A Relationally Mature Parent!
What are the advantages of being a relationally mature parent? There is a huge difference between being a person with child level relational maturity and being a person with a parent level relational maturity. Sadly, the vast majority of adults in our society spend their lives stuck at the relational level of a child. As…
Onward and upward!
Following Jesus will always take a course that eventually leads us onward and upward. Following Jesus is a daily walk. It is not a sprint and I’m done. It is not a pleasure hike that is always enjoyable. The daily walk is one small step of a life time journey. The days are numbered by…
What Is Perfection?
But, I’m not good enough ….. I have short comings …… I have times of failing …… I don’t measure up to the standard …. I have flaws and besetting sins ….. The scripture tells me to be perfect, and I’m not ….. It’s true, I’m not absolutely perfect. In fact, the scripture tells us…
Always!
Always is always … There are a few always statements and truths that I must always live by … “The One who sent Me is with Me. He has not left me alone, because I always do what pleases Him.” John 8:29 I keep Your instructions and follow your guidance because You are good and…
Receiving God’s Promises!
Where is Jesus leading me? When I come alive in my spirit, where am I heading? Is there instant arrival? I am on the journey of life. I am on this planet called earth and as my spirit comes alive, I am on my way through life headed for the eternity of heaven. I am…
Living In My Own Home!
As the head of my household, how do I live and what do I accept and tolerate in my own home? The following scripture is very helpful to me: “I will live in my own home with integrity. I will not put anything wicked in front of my eyes. I hate what unfaithful people do. …
Relationship … The Main Event!
The main event of life is my relationship with Jesus. This relationship is the focus of all of life …. in all situations good and bad …… The relationship with Jesus is life! Jesus said; “I have come that you might have life, and life more abundantly!” (John 10:10) Why did Jesus say “that you…
Because You Love Me!
Psalm 91 Because you love Me …… Because you know and have My Name …… Because you have made Me your home, your dwelling place ….. No harm will come to you here. I will rescue you. I will protect you. I will answer you and talk with you. I will always be with you,…
The Desires of My Heart!
Psalms 37:4 James 4:1-3 1Sam. 16:7 Pr. 3:5,6 The vast majority of our population including Christians are at a relational maturity level of an “infant” and a “child” where life is all about me. As an ‘infant’ I will view God from that perspective. He should be giving me what I want ….and be giving…
Returning To Joy from Sadness …
This is a short story of how one of those Fast Feelings affected me and how I handled the emotion so that I didn’t stay in it. The emotion is sadness. This last week I had the opportunity to go to a 5 day Thrive training conference in Denver where I learn about relationships, emotions,…
Fast Feelings …
I was frightened out of my mind …. I experienced a sudden burst of anger …. I didn’t have time to think …. On a whim or on impulse I bought it….. We have all experienced emotions in this manner. So, where do they come from? Well, they come from the right half of my…
My Altered Traumatic Life …
Traumas create an altered state from which I operate. This altered state is not the real me that I was created to be. Most often, this altered state and way of living that I have is not the way I would like to be. Type “A” traumas are things that were missed in my life…
A Traumatic Dream! Jesus’ Hurricane Heart!
The background to this dream: With family help I recently converted a sorting disorganized “gloom room” in my house into a “JOY Room” that brings everyone in my life into focus and celebrates them. In the center of the room is a 4ft square table with nothing on it. The table is for use in…
The Feelings of Traumas..
Part 1 A trauma is not so much the event itself as it is the effect of the event on my mind. Trauma is an overload on our emotions and no healthy inner solutions to it. A trauma has an altering effect. What does a trauma feel like? I may feel nothing because there was…
Walking Through A Day With Jesus!
Walk through the day with me and let’s see how it went and how well I did. This is a real life accounting of how my day went today. I awoke and repeated my Daily Interactive Declaration: Good morning Lord. I am Your son and want to please You; Jesus, I love You! I am…
The Way God Works With Us!
How does God work and connect with us His people? And specifically, how does God work and connect with me? This is the same question people asked Jesus while He was here on the earth…. “The people asked Jesus; ‘What must we do to do the works of God. Jesus answered, God will work through…
My Daily Interactive Declaration!
My Daily Interactive Declaration is composed of the following spoken declarations: Who I am ….. My expression of love for Him …. What He sees and wants for the day ….. My commitment to follow Him and his directives ….. My commitment to show love and bring life to all …… My expression of appreciation…
It’s The Little Things!
It’s the little things that I find the most annoying and it’s the little things I find most precious. One of the things I have been learning and practicing is to Live Out Of The Heart Jesus Has Given Me. He has given me a generous heart of compassion and love and practical helps that…
The Relational Maturity Training …!
How Long Will It take for me to learn the things and skills I need to know in order for me to be functioning as a relationally mature adult or parent? This question implies that I am taking some training or a class that I am able to master in a period of time such…