As I look back on my life, I realize that as a relational child, I had early marriages based on rules. My relationships were based on following the rules. But, there were sooo many rules; Biblical rules, social rules, my mom’s rules, my wife’s rules….. Rules in relationship are left brain and WAY tiring and…
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How Do I Love You?!!
Loving you is one of my responsibilities.…. Loving you is the 2nd greatest relational commandment. Matt.22:39 Soo,, Just how do I love you? Well, Love has many forms. True love is a parental relational combination of all the forms. Love isn’t conditional. Love involves pain. God, as our Father, gave us Jesus who dwelt among…
Is This The End???
As it was in the days of Noah, so will it be at our Lord’s return …. Violence will be rampant … Fear will be pervasive …. Men will be lovers of pleasure and not lovers of God …. God will preserve a minority consisting of those who love and follow Him …. Noah was…
Perfect Prayer?!
I have often thought that God will answer my prayers if I am praying against the evil I see in the world, my country, my State, or people I know or hear about. I will also pray about the evil and afflictions and diseases that I see on my family or those around me. I…
Shaken ….
Acts 3 gives us the story of Peter and John boldly healing the lame man on the temple steps. Then they were arrested by the priests for not following protocol and for using the name of Jesus. Acts 4:21 “On their release, Peter and John went back to their own people and reported all that…
My Responsibilities!!?
Am I responsible for myself? If I am at an infant level of relational maturity, I will feel that someone else is responsible for me and my needs. If I am at a child level of relational maturity, I will feel that someone else has most of the authority and responsibility is still in their…
Prayer Guidelines
Jesus… Teach us how to pray… The following are some clear guidelines from scripture; See if you can find where these guidelines are in scripture. Each one has several references and examples. Every thing and every request is made and covered in Jesus’ name.. There is no other name by which we are saved in…
The Puzzle of Life! Part 3 of 3
Since the puzzle pieces are life skills, how many are there and just HOW do I learn them? As taught by Thrive, there are 20 primary life skills puzzle pieces along with many smaller skill pieces that are birthed from the primary skills. 0 Relational circuits; 1 Sharing Joy; 2 Calming myself; 3 Forming bonds…
The Puzzle of Life… Part 2 of 3
So, what are the primary Puzzle pieces of my relational life? If I am a relational child, I will be curious as to what these puzzle pieces are. If I am an infant, I could care less. If I am an adult I will be interested to see if there is anything here that I…
The Puzzle Of Life!
Part 1 of 3…. Ever think about how we are born and grow physically, emotionally and relationally? In general we don’t even think about such things. It just happens. When I grew up life just happened and I never gave such things a thought. All I knew is that at certain ages I was now…
Relationship Heartache….
Relationships are an interesting thing. In relationships I discover a lot about myself. Relationships will quickly bring out how relationally mature I am. The less mature I am, the more expectation I will place on you. This shows up very quickly in marriages. As an infant I expect the other person or spouse to fill…
Eating …. A Test for Relational Maturity?
Some of the simple things of life are the most revealing about how relationally mature we are. How well do I get along with myself? How relationally mature am I during the day in my daily activities? In this little test, I am going to talk about eating and what it reveals about how relationally…
The Goal of Life!
Is God a God of goals.? What all is God trying to accomplish here on this earth? He created the heavens and the earth and then He rested from His creating work. Gen.2:1-4 As I look around our planet I don’t see God doing any new creating or repairs to the planet He created for…
Sabotaged …
Did you ever think that you would be attacked at one of your strongest points? This is one of your heart’s best qualities. This is where life revolves around you. This is where God wants you to be and serve. This is what you live for! Then suddenly, the foundation that you were building life…
THE ADDICTION TRAP . . . SLAVERY . . .
A person is a slave to that which controls him. When I am controlled from within, I cannot escape because wherever I go, there I am. Now this person panics because he is trapped so he tries to convince himself that he is not trapped and that he can quit this addiction at any time….
Am I Hindering Relational Maturity?
Without realizing it, our American society is designed to keep most everyone at an infant and child level of RM (relational maturity). This is true of families and also true of the government. Let’s look at some simple, basic examples. As a RM infant I am totally dependent on my mother or someone to keep…
Memorial Day!
I am thrilled to have this day set aside to remember and to express appreciation!!.. One of the keys to a healthy life is to be able to genuinely express appreciation to and for others…… We have set a part of this great day aside to express appreciation in a couple of personal ways. First,…
By My Spirit!
Not by might nor by power, but, by My Spirit says the Lord God Almighty! Zach.4:6 As I am in covenant with Jesus, my life is also not run by power and control, but, by the gentle covering of His wings as I walk humbly with Him! He is my Gentle Protector! So, I don’t…
Peaceful Prayer !!
This is Part 2 of Peaceful Prayer. In this post I look at the stress of praying as an infant or child. The stress level of prayer decreases the more relationally mature I become. It is very stressful praying as a relationally mature (RM) child. At the same time and on the same scale, my…
Peaceful Prayer!
Part 1 of 2 In the past my prayers have mostly been prayers of control. I see God as my parent or servant who is to do my bidding when I ask or demand using the proper formula. I just need to find that formula so that God will hop to it and give me…