Living all of life as a relationally mature (RM) child is extremely hard for and on everyone, including myself as that child. I know the rules and laws of life. Both spiritual laws and laws of the land. However I find that I don’t live out those laws and rules. Since I know the “laws…
Category: Trauma
Trick or Truth 2 ?….
The Answer is Yes. It is often both a truth and a trick. Our enemy the devil, loves to take a truth and then twist it so that we fall for it. This is a trick. This becomes a snare for us when we believe it and act on it. The very first Truth and…
Trick or Truth??
The Answer is Yes. It is often both a truth and a trick. Our enemy the devil, loves to take a truth and then twist it so that we fall for it. This is a trick. This becomes a snare for us when we believe it and act on it. The very first Truth and…
The Puzzle of Life… Part 2 of 3
So, what are the primary Puzzle pieces of my relational life? If I am a relational child, I will be curious as to what these puzzle pieces are. If I am an infant, I could care less. If I am an adult I will be interested to see if there is anything here that I…
The Puzzle Of Life!
Part 1 of 3…. Ever think about how we are born and grow physically, emotionally and relationally? In general we don’t even think about such things. It just happens. When I grew up life just happened and I never gave such things a thought. All I knew is that at certain ages I was now…
Relationship Heartache….
Relationships are an interesting thing. In relationships I discover a lot about myself. Relationships will quickly bring out how relationally mature I am. The less mature I am, the more expectation I will place on you. This shows up very quickly in marriages. As an infant I expect the other person or spouse to fill…
Sabotaged …
Did you ever think that you would be attacked at one of your strongest points? This is one of your heart’s best qualities. This is where life revolves around you. This is where God wants you to be and serve. This is what you live for! Then suddenly, the foundation that you were building life…
THE ADDICTION TRAP . . . SLAVERY . . .
A person is a slave to that which controls him. When I am controlled from within, I cannot escape because wherever I go, there I am. Now this person panics because he is trapped so he tries to convince himself that he is not trapped and that he can quit this addiction at any time….
Peaceful Prayer !!
This is Part 2 of Peaceful Prayer. In this post I look at the stress of praying as an infant or child. The stress level of prayer decreases the more relationally mature I become. It is very stressful praying as a relationally mature (RM) child. At the same time and on the same scale, my…
Maturity Struggles…
Even if I caused you sorrow by ( removing __) … and I see that (it) hurt you … (it is) only for a while … because your sorrow led you to repentance. For you became sorrowful as God intended and so were not harmed in any way by us. Godly sorrow brings repentance that…
Maturity Check Up!
Am I maturing relationally? Do I just hope so or can I really tell that I am different in a good way!? It is a really nice feeling to look at myself and realize that I am better and more mature than I was 5 years ago and even 5 months ago. I am currently…
The Place Called Home!
“I will take care of you and protect you!” ….. For most men who are the typical American male at a child level of relational maturity; This means that I provide for you financially and often loudly roar about the house keeping everyone in line and in their proper roles. There is generally a sense…
To Judge or Not To Judge…
What happens when I judge? I have seen and felt cases of judgment and having been judged by others, my eyes were opened to the seriousness of judging. I see why Jesus tells us not to judge others. I also see why Jesus does not judge in an immediate fashion like we often think He…
My Altered Traumatic Life …
Traumas create an altered state from which I operate. This altered state is not the real me that I was created to be. Most often, this altered state and way of living that I have is not the way I would like to be. Type “A” traumas are things that were missed in my life…
A Traumatic Dream! Jesus’ Hurricane Heart!
The background to this dream: With family help I recently converted a sorting disorganized “gloom room” in my house into a “JOY Room” that brings everyone in my life into focus and celebrates them. In the center of the room is a 4ft square table with nothing on it. The table is for use in…
The Feelings of Traumas..
Part 1 A trauma is not so much the event itself as it is the effect of the event on my mind. Trauma is an overload on our emotions and no healthy inner solutions to it. A trauma has an altering effect. What does a trauma feel like? I may feel nothing because there was…
Connecting With Immanuel!
Immanuel means “God with us.” I hear You …. or do I? I see You …. or do I? I know You …. or do I? I feel You …. or do I? I love You …. or do I? How I do any of these essential relational connections is determined by several factors; How…
Jesus Sends His Disciples Into a Storm ..3
Part 3 of 3 I enjoy some of the intriguing scriptures that I read. I spend time meditating on them, trying to place them in my thought patterns and processes, and make the truths a part of my ways. We are looking at Mark7:45-55 In parts 1 and 2 we raised some questions about this…
Jesus Sends His Disciples Into a Storm ..2
Part 2 of 3 I enjoy some of the intriguing scriptures that I read. I spend time meditating on them, trying to place them in my thought patterns and processes, and make the truths a part of my ways. In order to more fully understand a scripture, I need to at least have a glimpse…
Jesus Sends His Disciples Into a Storm ..1
Part 1 of 3 I enjoy some of the intriguing scriptures that I read. I spend time meditating on them, trying to place them in my thought patterns and processes, and make the truths a part of my ways. Jesus purposely taught in parables just for this reason. Let’s take a scripture that most of…