A person is a slave to that which controls him. When I am controlled from within, I cannot escape because wherever I go, there I am. Now this person panics because he is trapped so he tries to convince himself that he is not trapped and that he can quit this addiction at any time….
Category: My Time for Action
Am I Hindering Relational Maturity?
Without realizing it, our American society is designed to keep most everyone at an infant and child level of RM (relational maturity). This is true of families and also true of the government. Let’s look at some simple, basic examples. As a RM infant I am totally dependent on my mother or someone to keep…
Memorial Day!
I am thrilled to have this day set aside to remember and to express appreciation!!.. One of the keys to a healthy life is to be able to genuinely express appreciation to and for others…… We have set a part of this great day aside to express appreciation in a couple of personal ways. First,…
By My Spirit!
Not by might nor by power, but, by My Spirit says the Lord God Almighty! Zach.4:6 As I am in covenant with Jesus, my life is also not run by power and control, but, by the gentle covering of His wings as I walk humbly with Him! He is my Gentle Protector! So, I don’t…
Peaceful Prayer !!
This is Part 2 of Peaceful Prayer. In this post I look at the stress of praying as an infant or child. The stress level of prayer decreases the more relationally mature I become. It is very stressful praying as a relationally mature (RM) child. At the same time and on the same scale, my…
Peaceful Prayer!
Part 1 of 2 In the past my prayers have mostly been prayers of control. I see God as my parent or servant who is to do my bidding when I ask or demand using the proper formula. I just need to find that formula so that God will hop to it and give me…
Legal Doesn’t Mean Godly!
We live in a culture that attempts to legislate all areas of life. If we just have enough laws and rules and freedoms, then we will have peace and harmony in society and within ourselves. But…. Is this true? NO! So why do we try so hard to protect and promote our laws and views?…
Maturity Struggles…
Even if I caused you sorrow by ( removing __) … and I see that (it) hurt you … (it is) only for a while … because your sorrow led you to repentance. For you became sorrowful as God intended and so were not harmed in any way by us. Godly sorrow brings repentance that…
Tell Me A Story!
The following is taken from a past outline I wrote in order to organize some of my life stories and events. It has since been filled out considerably. I share it here with you for an idea of an outline for your own story telling to your family and for those who follow you! These…
My Daily Relationship With Jesus!
Am I looking to Jesus as my event coordinator? Or do I look to Jesus as life giving relationship and my Constant Companion? The majority of my life will be a daily walk consisting of what seems to be small, regular issues of daily living. When Jesus is my constant companion, I will actually find…
My Daily Assignments!
God has designed our entire life on this planet as transitory. Nothing is permanent, although I try to make it that way. Especially as relational adults, I see a physical kingdom here on earth and I spend most all of my working years DOING and attempting to set up the kingdom I envision. I attempt…
Silent Light!
The most powerful witness we have as Christians, as adults,and as parents is the way we openly do all of life and live within our relationships, our family, and our community. It is a SILENT presence. No where are we told to be loud speakers in our relational settings. Jesus used the example and gave…
Signs of Maturity!
One of the easiest ways to check my Relational Maturity (RM) is to check my responses. In general my thought process to see how I am doing is to check and see if I am doing all the correct and “right” things. I like to check the scripture for in it I think I have…
True Mature Love!
Looking for love.…. I’m chasing love…… I hope I fall into love….. Where has love gone? At this season of the year “love” is in the air and on the calendar. So where and from whom do I really find love? Let’s take a look at real mature love and where it comes from. It’s…
Turmoil At Home?
As I enter this new season it is time for me to do a self check and see if I am being my best self?! Am I aware of who I am and who those around me are? As I look at my Relational Maturity am I primarily an infant, a child, an adult, or…
The Place Called Home!
“I will take care of you and protect you!” ….. For most men who are the typical American male at a child level of relational maturity; This means that I provide for you financially and often loudly roar about the house keeping everyone in line and in their proper roles. There is generally a sense…
Living The Good Life!
When do I start living the “good life”? What is the “good life?” We often feel that life is rough and I just need to get through or past this season or time and then I can start living the “good life”. I have often lived in a state of busyness and overwhelm. I just…
No Pain …. No Pain ….
Lost focus ….. I am looking at all the byproducts and benefits …… I came looking for a great connection with God and I fell in love with the comfort aspect of the connection as I see it …. yes peaceful comfort 24/7 !! ….. I am here for peaceful comfort! Sign me up! However,…
In Tune With God and Man!
As we begin this new year, I need to do a self check and see if I am in tune with God and my family, friends and others… If I am NOT in tune I will find that my relational circuits are off and I am not very well connected to God or anyone else….
To Judge or Not To Judge…
What happens when I judge? I have seen and felt cases of judgment and having been judged by others, my eyes were opened to the seriousness of judging. I see why Jesus tells us not to judge others. I also see why Jesus does not judge in an immediate fashion like we often think He…