As an Infant I am learning how to receive the blessings being offered to me. I learn how to ask for blessings from my parents. I learn to be thankful. As a child I learn how to recognize the worth of what I am being offered and I begin to learn how to share with…
Category: Marriage
Enjoying Life Together!?!
I am in my early 20s contemplating spending the remainder of my years with an excellent spouse. As an adult, I am looking at other young adults who could possibly be my life long partner. I am picturing this life as a ride on a train through the territories and seasons of life. I desire…
Who Cares ??
Every human being needs to know and feel that someone genuinely cares for them. As an infant, I need to have that secure feeling that my mother loves me and that I can trust her to always be there for me because I am her baby and she is my mother. It is crucial that…
What’s In Your Hand..?
This post is a snapshot of Relational Maturity levels: We all have physical maturity that follows these general physical ages; 0 to 4 Infant … 5 to 11 Child ….. 12 to 17 Adult …. 18 to 60 Parent 60 to 100 Elder. Relationally I may be primarily stalled in any one of these categories…
Trick Or Truth 6..?
The Answer is Yes. It is often both a truth and a trick. Our enemy the devil, loves to take a truth and then twist it so that we fall for it. This is a trick. This becomes a snare for us when we believe the twisted truth and act on it. The very first…
Identity Rejection….
There are a lot of jokes and sayings that banter back and forth about the joys and struggles of being a woman or being a man; “Guys have it so easy, they know nothing about the pain of child berth.” “Wives have it so easy because they don’t have to face the world to make…
Rules Or Relationship?
As I look back on my life, I realize that as a relational child, I had early marriages based on rules. My relationships were based on following the rules. But, there were sooo many rules; Biblical rules, social rules, my mom’s rules, my wife’s rules….. Rules in relationship are left brain and WAY tiring and…
My Responsibilities!!?
Am I responsible for myself? If I am at an infant level of relational maturity, I will feel that someone else is responsible for me and my needs. If I am at a child level of relational maturity, I will feel that someone else has most of the authority and responsibility is still in their…
Silent Light!
The most powerful witness we have as Christians, as adults,and as parents is the way we openly do all of life and live within our relationships, our family, and our community. It is a SILENT presence. No where are we told to be loud speakers in our relational settings. Jesus used the example and gave…
True Mature Love!
Looking for love.…. I’m chasing love…… I hope I fall into love….. Where has love gone? At this season of the year “love” is in the air and on the calendar. So where and from whom do I really find love? Let’s take a look at real mature love and where it comes from. It’s…
The Place Called Home!
“I will take care of you and protect you!” ….. For most men who are the typical American male at a child level of relational maturity; This means that I provide for you financially and often loudly roar about the house keeping everyone in line and in their proper roles. There is generally a sense…
Life’s Second Great Event!
The second great event of life is my relationship with my spouse ….. The marriage bond is strongest when we share love, developmental identity growth, relational maturity, and a purpose with ministry. These are the things of life that do not fade …… This is also the period of my life that is generally the…
My Life Of Relationships…
Relationships are born, develop and mature. Some relationships last a lifetime and beyond while others don’t last much past birth and early development. Our ongoing connection with others is a relationship. All good relationships should bring life to both parties. We are physically born into some relationships, and they last a lifetime even though the…
Always!
Always is always … There are a few always statements and truths that I must always live by … “The One who sent Me is with Me. He has not left me alone, because I always do what pleases Him.” John 8:29 I keep Your instructions and follow your guidance because You are good and…
Receiving God’s Promises!
Where is Jesus leading me? When I come alive in my spirit, where am I heading? Is there instant arrival? I am on the journey of life. I am on this planet called earth and as my spirit comes alive, I am on my way through life headed for the eternity of heaven. I am…
Walking The Way He Walks!
Lord, You are my source of security. Therefore, I consider my actions and follow Your rules. I keep Your commands eagerly and without delay.” Ps.119:57,59,60 “We must go through many hardships to enter the kingdom of God; So, I will remain true to the Lord and the way He has given me to walk.” Acts14:22…
Practicing my Keys! (joy bonds)
If I am going to play beautiful music I need to practice. If I am going to play beautiful music in harmony with you, I have to practice my keys and then I need to practice harmonizing my keys with yours. We then practice playing together in harmony! Making joyful music together!! Since Joy is…
Practicing my Keys! (my love base)
If I am going to play beautiful music I need to practice. If I am going to play beautiful music in harmony with you, I have to practice my keys and then I need to practice harmonizing my keys with yours. We then practice playing together in harmony! Making beautiful music together!! I Love to…
Practicing my Keys! (being a mature parent)
If I am going to play beautiful music I need to practice. If I am going to play beautiful music in harmony with you, I have to practice my keys and then I need to assist you in learning to play music, often from the basic “stepping up, stepping down, then a skip”. It is…
Keys To My Relational Maturity! 9
How did I mature relationally? This has been a long and often scary and painful journey for me. It has not been quick and easy. I am sharing with you some key individual steps that freed me to be able to mature from a relational infant and child into a relationally mature parent and elder….