As I look back on my life, I realize that as a relational child, I had early marriages based on rules. My relationships were based on following the rules. But, there were sooo many rules; Biblical rules, social rules, my mom’s rules, my wife’s rules….. Rules in relationship are left brain and WAY tiring and…
Category: Love
How Do I Love You?!!
Loving you is one of my responsibilities.…. Loving you is the 2nd greatest relational commandment. Matt.22:39 Soo,, Just how do I love you? Well, Love has many forms. True love is a parental relational combination of all the forms. Love isn’t conditional. Love involves pain. God, as our Father, gave us Jesus who dwelt among…
Perfect Prayer?!
I have often thought that God will answer my prayers if I am praying against the evil I see in the world, my country, my State, or people I know or hear about. I will also pray about the evil and afflictions and diseases that I see on my family or those around me. I…
Shaken ….
Acts 3 gives us the story of Peter and John boldly healing the lame man on the temple steps. Then they were arrested by the priests for not following protocol and for using the name of Jesus. Acts 4:21 “On their release, Peter and John went back to their own people and reported all that…
My Responsibilities!!?
Am I responsible for myself? If I am at an infant level of relational maturity, I will feel that someone else is responsible for me and my needs. If I am at a child level of relational maturity, I will feel that someone else has most of the authority and responsibility is still in their…
Prayer Guidelines
Jesus… Teach us how to pray… The following are some clear guidelines from scripture; See if you can find where these guidelines are in scripture. Each one has several references and examples. Every thing and every request is made and covered in Jesus’ name.. There is no other name by which we are saved in…
The Puzzle of Life… Part 2 of 3
So, what are the primary Puzzle pieces of my relational life? If I am a relational child, I will be curious as to what these puzzle pieces are. If I am an infant, I could care less. If I am an adult I will be interested to see if there is anything here that I…
Relationship Heartache….
Relationships are an interesting thing. In relationships I discover a lot about myself. Relationships will quickly bring out how relationally mature I am. The less mature I am, the more expectation I will place on you. This shows up very quickly in marriages. As an infant I expect the other person or spouse to fill…
By My Spirit!
Not by might nor by power, but, by My Spirit says the Lord God Almighty! Zach.4:6 As I am in covenant with Jesus, my life is also not run by power and control, but, by the gentle covering of His wings as I walk humbly with Him! He is my Gentle Protector! So, I don’t…
Peaceful Prayer !!
This is Part 2 of Peaceful Prayer. In this post I look at the stress of praying as an infant or child. The stress level of prayer decreases the more relationally mature I become. It is very stressful praying as a relationally mature (RM) child. At the same time and on the same scale, my…
Legal Doesn’t Mean Godly!
We live in a culture that attempts to legislate all areas of life. If we just have enough laws and rules and freedoms, then we will have peace and harmony in society and within ourselves. But…. Is this true? NO! So why do we try so hard to protect and promote our laws and views?…
Salvation Is Being Saved In Every Way!
The Lord is my Salvation, my Strength, and my Song; Salvation is best defined as taking all my lost, scattered, broken, ruined, tarnished parts and bringing them back into the design that was originally created uniquely for me. “I will give thanks to you, O Lord, for though you were angry with me, your anger…
Maturity Check Up!
Am I maturing relationally? Do I just hope so or can I really tell that I am different in a good way!? It is a really nice feeling to look at myself and realize that I am better and more mature than I was 5 years ago and even 5 months ago. I am currently…
Tell Me A Story!
The following is taken from a past outline I wrote in order to organize some of my life stories and events. It has since been filled out considerably. I share it here with you for an idea of an outline for your own story telling to your family and for those who follow you! These…
My Daily Relationship With Jesus!
Am I looking to Jesus as my event coordinator? Or do I look to Jesus as life giving relationship and my Constant Companion? The majority of my life will be a daily walk consisting of what seems to be small, regular issues of daily living. When Jesus is my constant companion, I will actually find…
My Daily Assignments!
God has designed our entire life on this planet as transitory. Nothing is permanent, although I try to make it that way. Especially as relational adults, I see a physical kingdom here on earth and I spend most all of my working years DOING and attempting to set up the kingdom I envision. I attempt…
Silent Light!
The most powerful witness we have as Christians, as adults,and as parents is the way we openly do all of life and live within our relationships, our family, and our community. It is a SILENT presence. No where are we told to be loud speakers in our relational settings. Jesus used the example and gave…
True Mature Love!
Looking for love.…. I’m chasing love…… I hope I fall into love….. Where has love gone? At this season of the year “love” is in the air and on the calendar. So where and from whom do I really find love? Let’s take a look at real mature love and where it comes from. It’s…
Turmoil At Home?
As I enter this new season it is time for me to do a self check and see if I am being my best self?! Am I aware of who I am and who those around me are? As I look at my Relational Maturity am I primarily an infant, a child, an adult, or…
The Place Called Home!
“I will take care of you and protect you!” ….. For most men who are the typical American male at a child level of relational maturity; This means that I provide for you financially and often loudly roar about the house keeping everyone in line and in their proper roles. There is generally a sense…