This post is a snapshot of Relational Maturity levels: We all have physical maturity that follows these general physical ages; 0 to 4 Infant … 5 to 11 Child ….. 12 to 17 Adult …. 18 to 60 Parent 60 to 100 Elder. Relationally I may be primarily stalled in any one of these categories…
Category: Keys to Relational Maturity
Practicing Real Life!
Who do I want to be when I grow up? As infants and children we play a lot of make believe. Social media has opened the door wide open for anyone to pretend to be anything or person they want to be for that time or day. There is no reality governing this make-believe life,…
Rules Or Relationship?
As I look back on my life, I realize that as a relational child, I had early marriages based on rules. My relationships were based on following the rules. But, there were sooo many rules; Biblical rules, social rules, my mom’s rules, my wife’s rules….. Rules in relationship are left brain and WAY tiring and…
Perfect Prayer?!
I have often thought that God will answer my prayers if I am praying against the evil I see in the world, my country, my State, or people I know or hear about. I will also pray about the evil and afflictions and diseases that I see on my family or those around me. I…
My Responsibilities!!?
Am I responsible for myself? If I am at an infant level of relational maturity, I will feel that someone else is responsible for me and my needs. If I am at a child level of relational maturity, I will feel that someone else has most of the authority and responsibility is still in their…
The Puzzle of Life! Part 3 of 3
Since the puzzle pieces are life skills, how many are there and just HOW do I learn them? As taught by Thrive, there are 20 primary life skills puzzle pieces along with many smaller skill pieces that are birthed from the primary skills. 0 Relational circuits; 1 Sharing Joy; 2 Calming myself; 3 Forming bonds…
The Puzzle of Life… Part 2 of 3
So, what are the primary Puzzle pieces of my relational life? If I am a relational child, I will be curious as to what these puzzle pieces are. If I am an infant, I could care less. If I am an adult I will be interested to see if there is anything here that I…
The Puzzle Of Life!
Part 1 of 3…. Ever think about how we are born and grow physically, emotionally and relationally? In general we don’t even think about such things. It just happens. When I grew up life just happened and I never gave such things a thought. All I knew is that at certain ages I was now…
Memorial Day!
I am thrilled to have this day set aside to remember and to express appreciation!!.. One of the keys to a healthy life is to be able to genuinely express appreciation to and for others…… We have set a part of this great day aside to express appreciation in a couple of personal ways. First,…
Peaceful Prayer !!
This is Part 2 of Peaceful Prayer. In this post I look at the stress of praying as an infant or child. The stress level of prayer decreases the more relationally mature I become. It is very stressful praying as a relationally mature (RM) child. At the same time and on the same scale, my…
Maturity Struggles…
Even if I caused you sorrow by ( removing __) … and I see that (it) hurt you … (it is) only for a while … because your sorrow led you to repentance. For you became sorrowful as God intended and so were not harmed in any way by us. Godly sorrow brings repentance that…
Maturity Check Up!
Am I maturing relationally? Do I just hope so or can I really tell that I am different in a good way!? It is a really nice feeling to look at myself and realize that I am better and more mature than I was 5 years ago and even 5 months ago. I am currently…
Silent Light!
The most powerful witness we have as Christians, as adults,and as parents is the way we openly do all of life and live within our relationships, our family, and our community. It is a SILENT presence. No where are we told to be loud speakers in our relational settings. Jesus used the example and gave…
Signs of Maturity!
One of the easiest ways to check my Relational Maturity (RM) is to check my responses. In general my thought process to see how I am doing is to check and see if I am doing all the correct and “right” things. I like to check the scripture for in it I think I have…
No Pain …. No Pain ….
Lost focus ….. I am looking at all the byproducts and benefits …… I came looking for a great connection with God and I fell in love with the comfort aspect of the connection as I see it …. yes peaceful comfort 24/7 !! ….. I am here for peaceful comfort! Sign me up! However,…
BEEPS … The Delays of Life …
BEEPS are negative rabbit trails and hindrances to healthy relational maturity growth. Beeps are; Behaviors …. Experiences ….. Events ….. People ….. Substances …. Each of these is a topic in it’s self and a rabbit trail that is a diversion that side tracks me from the serious issues of life. They keep me from…
Always!
Always is always … There are a few always statements and truths that I must always live by … “The One who sent Me is with Me. He has not left me alone, because I always do what pleases Him.” John 8:29 I keep Your instructions and follow your guidance because You are good and…
Business Law….
Jesus is not in our earthly business mindset. If I attempt to relate to God in a business way I will be entering into law. These are the rules (laws) of business. Business is about what I can obtain from you. It is about what I can keep for myself. If I don’t want or…
The Relational Maturity Training …!
How Long Will It take for me to learn the things and skills I need to know in order for me to be functioning as a relationally mature adult or parent? This question implies that I am taking some training or a class that I am able to master in a period of time such…
Connecting With Immanuel!
Immanuel means “God with us.” I hear You …. or do I? I see You …. or do I? I know You …. or do I? I feel You …. or do I? I love You …. or do I? How I do any of these essential relational connections is determined by several factors; How…