I am in my early 20s contemplating spending the remainder of my years with an excellent spouse. As an adult, I am looking at other young adults who could possibly be my life long partner. I am picturing this life as a ride on a train through the territories and seasons of life. I desire…
Category: Discipline
The Dark and Stormy Night …
How dark is it? How clearly can I see? And what do I hear? Does all seem dark and dreary? A gloomy fog is in the air and in many people’s space. It seems that others see and feel this gloom and doom also. There is a hopeless feeling. These are all statements I am…
Deciding The Game Of Life!!!!
Judging is like calling the game after the first quarter or at half time. Based on what I am seeing both in myself and in my team mates, I decide to call it quits. I judge that there is not an easy win here or not a win at all. Sooo,, I quit. I do…
Our Chaotic Society ….
A society without God as the Supreme Leader is destined to fail. The denigration of society is accelerated when those in the society do not mature relationally, but remain as infants and children. The vast majority of our society today is made up of relational infants and children. This segment is encouraged to remain as…
Practicing Real Life!
Who do I want to be when I grow up? As infants and children we play a lot of make believe. Social media has opened the door wide open for anyone to pretend to be anything or person they want to be for that time or day. There is no reality governing this make-believe life,…
Trick or Truth.. 4 ?
The Answer is Yes. It is often both a truth and a trick. Our enemy the devil, loves to take a truth and then twist it so that we fall for it. This is a trick. This becomes a snare for us when we believe the twisted truth and act on it. The very first…
Trick or Truth 2 ?….
The Answer is Yes. It is often both a truth and a trick. Our enemy the devil, loves to take a truth and then twist it so that we fall for it. This is a trick. This becomes a snare for us when we believe it and act on it. The very first Truth and…
Perfect Prayer?!
I have often thought that God will answer my prayers if I am praying against the evil I see in the world, my country, my State, or people I know or hear about. I will also pray about the evil and afflictions and diseases that I see on my family or those around me. I…
My Responsibilities!!?
Am I responsible for myself? If I am at an infant level of relational maturity, I will feel that someone else is responsible for me and my needs. If I am at a child level of relational maturity, I will feel that someone else has most of the authority and responsibility is still in their…
The Puzzle of Life! Part 3 of 3
Since the puzzle pieces are life skills, how many are there and just HOW do I learn them? As taught by Thrive, there are 20 primary life skills puzzle pieces along with many smaller skill pieces that are birthed from the primary skills. 0 Relational circuits; 1 Sharing Joy; 2 Calming myself; 3 Forming bonds…
The Puzzle of Life… Part 2 of 3
So, what are the primary Puzzle pieces of my relational life? If I am a relational child, I will be curious as to what these puzzle pieces are. If I am an infant, I could care less. If I am an adult I will be interested to see if there is anything here that I…
Relationship Heartache….
Relationships are an interesting thing. In relationships I discover a lot about myself. Relationships will quickly bring out how relationally mature I am. The less mature I am, the more expectation I will place on you. This shows up very quickly in marriages. As an infant I expect the other person or spouse to fill…
Eating …. A Test for Relational Maturity?
Some of the simple things of life are the most revealing about how relationally mature we are. How well do I get along with myself? How relationally mature am I during the day in my daily activities? In this little test, I am going to talk about eating and what it reveals about how relationally…
The Goal of Life!
Is God a God of goals.? What all is God trying to accomplish here on this earth? He created the heavens and the earth and then He rested from His creating work. Gen.2:1-4 As I look around our planet I don’t see God doing any new creating or repairs to the planet He created for…
By My Spirit!
Not by might nor by power, but, by My Spirit says the Lord God Almighty! Zach.4:6 As I am in covenant with Jesus, my life is also not run by power and control, but, by the gentle covering of His wings as I walk humbly with Him! He is my Gentle Protector! So, I don’t…
Peaceful Prayer !!
This is Part 2 of Peaceful Prayer. In this post I look at the stress of praying as an infant or child. The stress level of prayer decreases the more relationally mature I become. It is very stressful praying as a relationally mature (RM) child. At the same time and on the same scale, my…
Peaceful Prayer!
Part 1 of 2 In the past my prayers have mostly been prayers of control. I see God as my parent or servant who is to do my bidding when I ask or demand using the proper formula. I just need to find that formula so that God will hop to it and give me…
Maturity Struggles…
Even if I caused you sorrow by ( removing __) … and I see that (it) hurt you … (it is) only for a while … because your sorrow led you to repentance. For you became sorrowful as God intended and so were not harmed in any way by us. Godly sorrow brings repentance that…
Maturity Check Up!
Am I maturing relationally? Do I just hope so or can I really tell that I am different in a good way!? It is a really nice feeling to look at myself and realize that I am better and more mature than I was 5 years ago and even 5 months ago. I am currently…
Silent Light!
The most powerful witness we have as Christians, as adults,and as parents is the way we openly do all of life and live within our relationships, our family, and our community. It is a SILENT presence. No where are we told to be loud speakers in our relational settings. Jesus used the example and gave…