Every human being needs to know and feel that someone genuinely cares for them. As an infant, I need to have that secure feeling that my mother loves me and that I can trust her to always be there for me because I am her baby and she is my mother. It is crucial that…
Category: Big Emotions
The Dark and Stormy Night …
How dark is it? How clearly can I see? And what do I hear? Does all seem dark and dreary? A gloomy fog is in the air and in many people’s space. It seems that others see and feel this gloom and doom also. There is a hopeless feeling. These are all statements I am…
Deciding The Game Of Life!!!!
Judging is like calling the game after the first quarter or at half time. Based on what I am seeing both in myself and in my team mates, I decide to call it quits. I judge that there is not an easy win here or not a win at all. Sooo,, I quit. I do…
Trick Or Truth 6..?
The Answer is Yes. It is often both a truth and a trick. Our enemy the devil, loves to take a truth and then twist it so that we fall for it. This is a trick. This becomes a snare for us when we believe the twisted truth and act on it. The very first…
Trick Or Truth 5 ..?
The Answer is Yes. It is often both a truth and a trick. Our enemy the devil, loves to take a truth and then twist it so that we fall for it. This is a trick. This becomes a snare for us when we believe the twisted truth and act on it. The very first…
Trick or Truth.. 4 ?
The Answer is Yes. It is often both a truth and a trick. Our enemy the devil, loves to take a truth and then twist it so that we fall for it. This is a trick. This becomes a snare for us when we believe the twisted truth and act on it. The very first…
Trick or Truth 3.. ?
The Answer is Yes. It is often both a truth and a trick. Our enemy the devil, loves to take a truth and then twist it so that we fall for it. This is a trick. This becomes a snare for us when we believe it and act on it. The very first Truth and…
Trick or Truth??
The Answer is Yes. It is often both a truth and a trick. Our enemy the devil, loves to take a truth and then twist it so that we fall for it. This is a trick. This becomes a snare for us when we believe it and act on it. The very first Truth and…
Anxiety….
Anxiety is a form of fear. anxiety involves emotional pain that I feel. I am anxious because I am operating from a relational fear base. Anxiety comes from my fear that things are out of control. They may not be going the way I think they should be. I don’t have enough information to know…
How Do I Love You?!!
Loving you is one of my responsibilities.…. Loving you is the 2nd greatest relational commandment. Matt.22:39 Soo,, Just how do I love you? Well, Love has many forms. True love is a parental relational combination of all the forms. Love isn’t conditional. Love involves pain. God, as our Father, gave us Jesus who dwelt among…
The Puzzle Of Life!
Part 1 of 3…. Ever think about how we are born and grow physically, emotionally and relationally? In general we don’t even think about such things. It just happens. When I grew up life just happened and I never gave such things a thought. All I knew is that at certain ages I was now…
Sabotaged …
Did you ever think that you would be attacked at one of your strongest points? This is one of your heart’s best qualities. This is where life revolves around you. This is where God wants you to be and serve. This is what you live for! Then suddenly, the foundation that you were building life…
By My Spirit!
Not by might nor by power, but, by My Spirit says the Lord God Almighty! Zach.4:6 As I am in covenant with Jesus, my life is also not run by power and control, but, by the gentle covering of His wings as I walk humbly with Him! He is my Gentle Protector! So, I don’t…
Maturity Struggles…
Even if I caused you sorrow by ( removing __) … and I see that (it) hurt you … (it is) only for a while … because your sorrow led you to repentance. For you became sorrowful as God intended and so were not harmed in any way by us. Godly sorrow brings repentance that…
Turmoil At Home?
As I enter this new season it is time for me to do a self check and see if I am being my best self?! Am I aware of who I am and who those around me are? As I look at my Relational Maturity am I primarily an infant, a child, an adult, or…
The Place Called Home!
“I will take care of you and protect you!” ….. For most men who are the typical American male at a child level of relational maturity; This means that I provide for you financially and often loudly roar about the house keeping everyone in line and in their proper roles. There is generally a sense…
BEEPS … The Delays of Life …
BEEPS are negative rabbit trails and hindrances to healthy relational maturity growth. Beeps are; Behaviors …. Experiences ….. Events ….. People ….. Substances …. Each of these is a topic in it’s self and a rabbit trail that is a diversion that side tracks me from the serious issues of life. They keep me from…
The Desires of My Heart!
Psalms 37:4 James 4:1-3 1Sam. 16:7 Pr. 3:5,6 The vast majority of our population including Christians are at a relational maturity level of an “infant” and a “child” where life is all about me. As an ‘infant’ I will view God from that perspective. He should be giving me what I want ….and be giving…
Returning To Joy from Sadness …
This is a short story of how one of those Fast Feelings affected me and how I handled the emotion so that I didn’t stay in it. The emotion is sadness. This last week I had the opportunity to go to a 5 day Thrive training conference in Denver where I learn about relationships, emotions,…
Fast Feelings …
I was frightened out of my mind …. I experienced a sudden burst of anger …. I didn’t have time to think …. On a whim or on impulse I bought it….. We have all experienced emotions in this manner. So, where do they come from? Well, they come from the right half of my…