We live in a culture that attempts to legislate all areas of life. If we just have enough laws and rules and freedoms, then we will have peace and harmony in society and within ourselves. But…. Is this true? NO! So why do we try so hard to protect and promote our laws and views? Because we falsely think that we will find life if we have all the right laws. We falsely assume that if it is made legal, then it must be accepted by others as good and God will accept it and bless it as good. Therefore, there is a tremendous push to legalize things or to keep them from being legalized.
Legal doesn’t mean that it is good. Legal doesn’t mean that it is accepted by God. Many law abiding people will not be found in heaven. Love doesn’t mean acceptance of the issue or thing. Actual mature love is a heart issue that cares deeply about the person while hurting deeply about the issues and malfunctions that are damaging that person and keeping them from becoming and being the true person they were created to be. Love cannot be legislated because love lives above the law.
However, if I am not a relationally mature parent, I will have a difficult time properly loving. As a relational child, I will struggle to love properly because I will see the other person as failing and being “bad”. You are unlovable because you have these issues and failures. I don’t want to be around you because your failures may rub off on me. At that point, I am basically saying that I am not mature enough to handle your failures…. I just don’t know how, it is too hard, and I just don’t have the capacity to be around you. But, I do want to be around those who love me in spite of my malfunctions. It is very difficult being a physical adult while being a relational child.
As a relationally mature parent I live from a love base and not from a law base. I don’t look for legality and what others are attempting to promote as being lawful. The question is what would Jesus do in this situation. It is all relationally based. I have a personal relationship with Jesus and am walking with Him. No one gets into heaven by following laws. As I follow Jesus, I operate from a caring heart to demonstrates truth and love in all situations just as Jesus does.