The cries from the children are for “someone” to help me; For “someone” to tell me; For “someone” to show me, how to live and how to deal with the issues and relationships of life. That “someone” is a RM parent who is capable of navigating the stream of life. Most of the chaos of the children is due to the lack of a RM parent in the child’s life who is doing life with them. So, where are all the missing parents? Most of them are still children themselves, and need to mature and take their place as the RM parent. Even one RM parent in my life can’t do it all. It takes a community with several RM parents. The following are some of the cries of the children seeking the “someone” (RM parent) for their life:
I wish that “someone” had told me that; I am unique: I am “fearfully and wonderfully made!” I am one of 4 major personality types; And a unique mixture of minor personalities; The vast majority of people do not think, feel, or operate as I do; I create a reality from which I operate that is a mixture of what is Real and what is not… In effect I create my own reality which is not necessarily all real and therefore causes me much grief at times. I can continue to properly connect and operate only as I get back to what is Real and True.
I need “someone” to tell me that; This world is not a neutral place. The current ruler of this planet is evil and deceitful and has no intention of promoting good. I am the one who must choose which One I must align myself with. Trying to be neutral does not work. When I choose Jesus, he brings me Life and I am not left as on my own.. I am given the Holy Spirit who takes care of all things as I partner with Him and continually communicate with Him.
I wish “someone” was explaining to me how; I am Body… Soul… Spirit… and develop in that order. My Spirit is designed to lead me and connect with my Creator. Operating from my Spirit is gentleness and love. Operating from my Soul is about rules, harshness, and judgment (even being loving is a rule). Finding a Soulmate is a good beginning for a marriage but the best is finding my Spiritmate… The world and the vast majority of children and adults operate out of their souls as their guide.
The I Wish “someone” …. a parent somewhere …. would step up and mature …. This endless list of cries is found in Teaching under Inner Turmoil Cries of the Children.
The primary life duty and goal for us all is to reach Parent RM where we are a living showcase to the infants, the children, and the adults as to what it is to be like in all relational situations, Good or Bad. How do I as a RM parent act and react when life and relationships are good?!! And how do I act and react when life and relationships are not good and hard?! Remember, all those following and watching us in all these situations learn and mature by how they see me as a RM parent, act and react. And what does that look like?!! My RCs are on to you; I attune to you and your cries; I provide a safe place for you to belong; I introduce you to Jesus; I help you find your identity, and I will help you find Jesus; I operate from a base of Love; I will not judge you but will bring good shame messages calling you to mature and avoid the path you are on that will lead to the destruction of your life or of the life of others. I don’t leave or abandon you, even if I have to physically protect myself or those with me, I am still available when you call. I can set proper boundaries for my family. My primary focus is to help you relationally mature and find true joy and abundant Life!
Let’s remember that everyone we encounter or have in our community relations is not totally Relationally Mature, me included. So, whether it is a child, spouse, family member, or community member. We are here to help them and each other, mature and have Life. And they are here to help us do the same.
Am I able to be a life giving example if I have really messed up?
Am I able to be a life giving example if I am past my prime?