Anxiety is a form of fear. anxiety involves emotional pain that I feel. I am anxious because I am operating from a relational fear base. Anxiety comes from my fear that things are out of control. They may not be going the way I think they should be. I don’t have enough information to know what I should do or how I should feel.
More relational maturity leads to less stress. If I am anxious about everything I am not enjoying life the way God has available for me. In fact I am told that I don’t need to be anxious about anything and that I can be free from anxiety. Phil.4:6,7 Wow … and just how do I live anxiety free? Let’s look at some basics:
If I am anxious about you and what you do, might do, or might not do. Or, how you act, might act or react; The issue isn’t about you,,,, It’s about me. I am most likely a relational infant or child. I feel the pain of anxiety because I am not able to attune to you and where you are relationally. As a relational child, I want to control you. I need to be a relationally mature adult or parent in order to attune to you and understand where you are without having to control you. I am now able to operate from a love base and not the fear base I have been in.
If I am anxious about my self; losing my job,,, not performing well …. not being good enough …. not looking good …. I am most likely a relational child. I am operating from a performance base and don’t have a secure attachment to Jesus.
Following Jesus makes life easier because I am not the one having to make the decisions of what all to do in life. I can have a secure attachment to Him and see things and others as Jesus sees them. My decisions are made simple because I follow His Word and do things and treat you as He would. I have a wonderful relationship with Him! I now notice that anxiety is gone!!